Saturday, July 30, 2011

Time To Relax

For those of you who want to kick back, relax, distress, and drink wine and eat good food, Bacara Spa Resort in Goleta, CA is the place to go. The service is impeccable from the minute you check in. The rooms are cozy with lovely views of the property and an inviting bathtub to decompress at the end of the day. My massage therapist made me feel like a new woman. I recommend the 80 minute deep tissue massage.
If you want a five star dinner you must try MIRO. If you feel like taking a drive into Santa Barbara, eat at Bouchon. The tappas are to die for. Also take a drive into Montecito and have dinner at Luckys which is one of my favorites. The filet mignon melts in your mouth. Great energy.
Bacara is a great place for couples who are looking for a romantic getaway!

Wednesday, July 27, 2011


If you're on a date with someone who kisses you goodnight and he or she has bad breath, immediately offer them a mint. If they don't get the picture, ask them if they ate garlic for lunch. If they don't get the picture tell him you would love to go out with them again, but first they should brush, floss, and carry breath mints. If it's a medical issue, they need to see a doctor who hopefully can fix the problem.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

He Wants A Divorce...Is He Kidding?

I received a call from a 42-year-old woman who heard me on the radio. She was practically out of breath, saying her husband walked in the door one day and told her he doesn't want to be married anymore.

I met with her the following day and talked about her 22-year marriage, her three children and what might have happened to cause him to feel this way. She said there were no signs, and they seemed to get along very well. They would take three big family vacations a year, owned two homes, and lived life to the fullest. When I asked her if she thinks he's having an affair, she said "definitely not!" I then asked her if he was going through a mid-life crisis. She said she didn't think so. We talked about their sex life, how often they spent alone time together and did he travel a lot on business. She told me he travels two weeks out of every month. She said they had sex twice a week, and when they go out it's usually with friends. She asked me to help her get through this devastating time. I offered to coach her and she accepted.

The next day we met again and she conveyed to me that she and her husband met in college and that he was her first love. She's never been with another man and was petrified to go out into the dating world. I noticed how insecure she was on the inside and that it would take time to get her self-esteem back. I assured her that she would be dating again, but it might take some time to feel comfortable with the process. I could see how distraught she was and that it would take time to get back her self-esteem. A lot of women blame themselves with a failed marriage.

A month later she told me she found out her husband was having an affair with a younger woman. She was so angry and humiliated, but after doing all of the exercises I gave her, she said she was finally ready to meet someone. I told her to go out on dates with different people. Don't expect to get serious with the first person who comes along. This is your time to have fun, be adventurous, and feel like a kid again.

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Monday, July 18, 2011

Lisa Cohen's Do's and Don'ts of Dating for women

DO go on a first date with a positive attitude. Remember a first date is only about seeing if you want to go on a second date – nothing more. You're interviewing this person to see if he will be your long-term partner.

DON'T go into the first date bitching about your ex-husband, ex-boyfriend, or if you're PMSing leave it at home. Could be a huge turnoff.

DO watch how a man treats his mother. If he treats her with respect and love he will most likely be a good partner.

DON'T continue the relationship if a man treats his mother with disrespect. Sooner or later he'll treat you the same way. Take my word for it!

DON'T sleep with him on the first date. You're making a big mistake if you do. Men love a challenge and a bit of mystery.

DO hold hands only if you feel like it and if you want to kiss goodnight that's okay. It's better to see if there's chemistry right from the get go than wait too long to find out there's zero chemistry. If you kiss really great together you'll most likely be good lovers.

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